At times, I wish I could sail off into the sunset. To leave all my cares and worries behind me: no more brain scans; no more breast scans; no more kidney scans; no more colonoscopies and EGD’s; no more stress of worrying about the outcomes of the tests I must endure. No more Cowden Syndrome and no more Lhermitte-duclos Disease discussion. Ever.
Alas, life is not like a movie. I don’t have that luxury around me, and to be honest, I really envy those that do.
But life is life. And, it’s not a dress rehearsal. This is my lot in life. Call it bad or good, it’s mine and I must not ever give up.
The last few Daily Prompts have intrigued me and I have begun several blog posts. But, each of them seem to be revolving around my medical status and remain in my drafts folder. I know there’s something else to me besides medical everything. Right?
So, in the spirit of acceptance I will dash to my next appointment and be back soon! Happy 4th of July everyone. ❤
…another person telling me the following:
“Wow. You got denied disability? I know tons of people with less than you who got approved.”
“In order to get approved you pretty much have to have a condition that will end in death.”
(It’s freaking 2 brain tumors. How much more “ending in death” can you get?)
“Are you working?”
“Are you married?”
“Why aren’t you married?”
Please. For the love. Just stop.
I’ve lost my way. And my hope.
I’m struggling but trying to find my way back.
I created this teespring store to raise money for my living expenses plus to raise awareness for Cowden Syndrome and Lhermitte-duclos Disease.
Take a look at the new shirt I created just now!
PS…if you know anyone that creates artwork or is willing to donate their time to help me create more shirts, please contact me! Thanks!
I have a virtual friend who has offered me her expertise, advice, support, on this whole disability mess. (THANK YOU!)
I chose not to read the judge’s 23 page denial because it will only make me angrier and more suicidal.
My virtual friend was kind enough to read the denial for me.
In part, the denial states that I was “fine and happy” in the courtroom. (I was trying to be professional and not lose my marbles. I almost did cause a scene at the end and I held it together because I was afraid THAT would be held against me.)
Over the years I have told my doctors that “I’m fine”. The judge held that against me in part of his reason to deny me.
(I have only told my numerous doctors “I’m fine” because I AM TIRED OF TELLING THEM ABOUT MY PAIN ALL THE TIME. MY CONSTANT HEAD PAIN, CONFUSION, MEMORY PROBLEMS, FINE MOTOR SKILLS PROBLEMS, ANXIETY, DEPRESSION, ETC.) But, that doesn’t mean over the 6 years since my life got turned upside down I never told ANY doctor I am in horrific pain? I DID!
The advocate told me if I chose to appeal then my case would go back to the same judge. My virtual friend said that in the denial it says that it may not go back to the same judge.
So kids. If you’re in the process of filing to disability, don’t EVER tell any of your doctors that you are fine. And, don’t find someone to “help” you online.
So Wikipedia tells me that catapult means: to launch a projectile a great distance without the aid of an explosive device. Hmmm.
My first thought was about all the Mythbuster episodes I’ve watched in the past and I wonder how many episodes had a catapult in it?
My next thought is: Someone put me in one of these and catapult me to the moon. I am done.
Please pray for me.
I am shocked with the judge’s decision. I am shocked that living with 2 brain tumors and a rare hereditary cancer syndrome doesn’t call for any compassion, support, understanding, anything.
The “advocate” told me yesterday that in reading the judge’s 23 page report of my denial, I told one of my doctors in January 2014 I was having hot flashes but wanted to work. (I had a hysterectomy the month earlier. I had to endure forced surgical menopause. Of course I had hot flashes! Plus, my brain was a hell of a lot different in 2014 than it is today. It was better then. Things were better then.)
So our trusted government servant made his decision (partly) on what I said over 3 years ago.
I guess I’ve learned to never tell my doctor anything.
You may think getting diagnosed with 2 brain tumors and a hereditary cancer syndrome is bad?
Try getting denied for disability.
This is actually worse.
I try really hard to be brave.
I really try hard to be strong.
You cannot survive without money.
I am broken.
What is the point anymore?
Approval would have helped me avoid filing bankruptcy. That’s now next on my to-do list.
Every time I think about it I begin to cry.
Every thing I am feeling and thinking now is exactly what I feared would happen.
I hate guilt. It consumes me and eats me up inside.
I have so much guilt about burdening my mom; her being forced to pay for my daily living expenses that I cannot take care of. (In addition to gas, car insurance, etc.)
Accepting my feelings of guilt, or
rationalizing coping with them, or whatever is one of my biggest crosses to date.
But at therapy yesterday Dr. C gave me some perspective I haven’t reached on my own:
She said that guilt results from when you do something wrong.
I didn’t do anything wrong to be diagnosed with 2 brain tumors and a hereditary cancer syndrome. I didn’t cause that. I didn’t make a less-than-desirable choice and am now forced to live with the consequences. I just have a “shitty” brain (her words). And she asked me, “Would you rather have a shitty mom and a good brain?”
No. No way no how no no no. No no no nope no.
I will take all the crappy things in the world because I have the best mom ever.
I got the better end of the deal then. ❤
I will not write my feelings about the “news” and President Trump. I will not write my feelings about what I fear of the future of our country. But one thing I’ve learned lately is: feelings aren’t facts. I wish the fake news networks knew this!
That phrase helps me immensely, especially when it comes to my medical status. I have a growth (tumor?) on my tongue and have a visit with the ENT this week. These growths aren’t new; that’s the whole Cowden Syndrome thing in a nutshell. Without going into too much gritty detail I have seen an ENT before about these things, and he told me I would have to go to the O.R. to have them removed. I am scared. I am terrified, to be very honest. I don’t want any more visits to the O.R. I have to center my attention and energy on what I do know. And in fact, I don’t know anything today. Maybe he can snip it right off?
This new growth is large, again new, and here’s what I find most peculiar about this entire thing: when I was 2 years old I had surgery to remove a “growth” on my gigantic tonsils. My mom just told me the thing on my tongue now looks almost identical to what was on my tonsil over 40 years ago.
Of course not.