Every year when this date pops up it brings with it such mixed feelings.
I was terrified I was going to die.
I was terrified I would be different. (I know I am different today; and in many areas too! It’s a moment by moment struggle towards acceptance of this fact.)
Different isn’t wrong I suppose.
Thank you to all my family and friends who continue to support me every day! And to those who just smile with me when my words get stuck or I repeat the same things.
I know it. I see it. I feel it. It frustrates me to no end that these things happen to me now; alas this is where I am at today.
I’m so frustrated right now I could spit nails.
I got a job a few months ago. This is great. This. Is. Great. However, I now have insurance. That costs me $300/month. I won’t go on about that right now.
What I will go on about right now is the damn paperwork and hoops that a medically involved person must go through. Why? What the freak for? Just to see A DOCTOR?! You know, the doctor(s) I have been seeing for 8 years? I’m not a normal person who gets sick once a year and can go to the doctor then. I am the person who must go to the doctor, usually, every 90 days. I have 5+ specialty doctors I must follow up with, but thankfully am established with them. So, whew.
Why do I have to do everyone else’s damn job? Why must I call the primary doctor, then the insurance, then the specialist, then back to the insurance to ensure that they are all communicating and are on the same page? Who the hell has time for this crap? I’ve made/received 10 (!) calls just today on getting authorizations sorted out and making sure things have been “coded” correctly, and finding out which actual doctor will do the correct authorization?
Aw, hell. It’s only 3 PM and I’m done and over this b.s.
I have 2 appointments next week – Neurology and Endocrinology. What do you think the odds are that I can actually
see get these appointments authorized?
PS, what happened to spell check in here?
I started this blog almost 8 years ago as a way to communicate with friends and family about my brain tumor diagnosis and surgeries. Then, my blog became a friend; someone I could talk to about the very things keeping me up at night. (The recovery of 2 brain surgeries a week apart is one the hardest things anyone can endure, IMO.)
Slowly, albeit very slowly, I have found my voice – welp, kinda – and I am feeling comfortable writing about other things in my life: my faith, more about my health as I made some major decisions the end of 2017 and my life is in a different direction now, my financial ruin, bankruptcy, and now seeing the other side of those things, and more!
I guess my point is I am gradually feeling the urge to share a bit more about myself. I hope you stay around. ❤
I probably shouldn’t ask questions of my Mom about the brain tumors.
I’m all worked up now; I don’t think the Trazodone will work tonight, dammit.
We were just talking about wisdom teeth and how I’m the only person I know who didn’t get ANY! 😝
(My Mom got 1 and she doesn’t remember about my Dad) and I said jokingly, “Maybe mine were in part of the brain tumor Dr. K got out”…..
Then it went off the rails (for me) right after this. Dr. K told my Mom in 2011 the smaller, encapsulated tumor is circular in shape.
And the 2nd tumor, the big one that is kicking my ass, AND WAS THE REASON I HAD TWO BRAIN SURGERIES 1 WEEK APART – has “fingers”. No border, I guess, right? 😳🤕
And those damn fingers are going to grow and get deeper in my cerebellum. And continue to wreak havoc in my daily life.
I know we ALL struggle and have trials/tribulations – but how am I ever supposed to triumph over this? Can I? Will I? How?! I had such hopes and dreams for my life and future. 💔
This freaking sucks; it sucks balls that I have to deal with this all by myself, I’m just saying. I’m almost 50 years old and I wish I could catch a break.
I hope(d) and pray(ed) that the Lord would bless me with a partner/companion/trusted friend who’d want to help me carry this load. Guess I’m crap out of luck. I’m tired. I’m tired of all this brain stuff. I’m tired of being alone – what friends I had – are gone. Do brain tumors scare people that much? Then IMAGINE what it’s like living with 2 of them? 😐
I hate you Gangliocytoma.
Do you know that this month is Brain Tumor Awareness Month?
Do you have your gear yet? (hint hint!)
If you follow me on Instagram you’ll know I promoted a post to (hopefully) get some traffic and potential
customers friends who would help me in my advocacy this month. If you’re new here, I am living with 2 rare brain tumors in my cerebellum called Gangliocytoma.
Take a look at this link and if you feel so inclined (please!) to purchase a shirt I will be donating 20% of the proceeds to the National Brain Tumor Society. I initially created these shirts to advocate but also to help me with my daily living expenses.
I have tried to get my creative juices flowing lately. I found this post from The Cacophonic Blog and decided to give it a whirl. It’s just kind of a recap – current update – on my medical status:
- What illnesses do you have? I am living with 2 Rare Diseases; Cowden Syndrome and Lhermitte-duclos Disease. I also had thyroid cancer in 2003 and a prophylactic hysterectomy. I have suffered with depression and anxiety for the last 20+ years.
- When were you diagnosed? The Rare Disease diagnosis came in 2011.
- Have you ever been hospitalized? Oy vey. So many hospital stays. The major ones are for the brain surgeries in summer 2011.
- Have you ever had surgery? See above.
- Do you take any medication? Presently, I take an anti-depressant and something to help me sleep. I don’t know if it’s a symptom of menopause (probably) but I have insane insomnia and do not sleep without Trazodone. I take vitamins and herbs (anti-virals) also.
- What do you wish people knew about Chronic Illness? That is sucks. And, if I’m quiet – please check on me. You’d be amazed at what a quick text can do!
- How can awareness be raised? I think talking about it can do a lot. Many times I find myself “playing the brain tumor card”. It actually helps me cope and accept my medical status if I talk about it! I’m sorry if it comes off rough or if you feel I’m too blunt, but let’s talk about it! I’m not afraid (welp, kinda) and want to talk about the brain tumors and hereditary cancer syndrome. Oh, and follow me on Social Media! Twitter and here for Instagram. 🙂
- Who knows about your illnesses? I actually don’t know. Sometimes, I feel that my friends may forget what I live with daily. However, we all have our crosses to bear, of this I know!
- How do your illnesses affect your life? Oh, this is a doozy of a question. Today, it affects me differently than years ago. I have learned to pace myself, to stay hydrated BEYOND belief, to bring a sun hat if I’m going to be out in the sun (my head HATES the sun now), bring ear plugs with me everywhere I go (my hearing is so sensitive now), and to TAKE A BREAK if I need one. I find that after a long day, it’s best if I go into a dark, quiet room and turn off my brain for about 45 minutes.
- If you could tell the medical community one thing about your illnesses, what would you tell them? Since Cowden Syndrome and Lhermitte-duclos Disease are rare, we need to walk this road together. Most of my doctors support me on this, that we are a TEAM, and what I say GOES. I’m very thankful for them!
Where or where to begin?
I’m up early – couldn’t sleep – and decided to jump on the ‘ole blog because life is coming full force and at times, I can’t breathe. Writing, sometimes, helps me breathe.
Here’s a quick recap on the last few months:
- In January, I lost my rescue dog. I loved him for the past 8 months and he forever changed my life. I was utterly gutted at his loss, but it was time. He was ready although I never was, nor ever will be.
- Finally got the referral to a neurologist (that was desperately needed!) and was told I have (the beginnings of?) nerve damage in my feet. From the brain tumors? The brain surgeries? Huh? What else now?! I had a nerve test last month and it was hell. The dot and the period.
- Do you remember the thyroid issues I have dealt with since last October? Last month also, I had another fine needle biopsy on my (empty) thyroid bed. (So, let’s see that’s – ultrasound/MRI/fine needle biopsy X2) – and there is STILL NO ANSWER AS TO WTF IS GOING ON IN MY NECK! I
had have elevated thyroglobulin and my doctor thinks maybe it was a technician error? Yet something is growing (I guess?) in my neck but it’s not a lymph node or thyroid benign or malignant cells? Ugh, I’m beyond exhausted.
- Haven’t filed BK yet. Found out there was some paperwork I need to submit to one of my creditors.
- My anxiety is getting pretty riled up and I am struggling with even the simplest of daily life tasks.
- I deleted my twitter account. I don’t know why; just felt like the right thing to do. Maybe I’ll be back one day? There are so many wonderful things about twitter, and to be honest it just doesn’t feel right watching Days or Gutfeld w/o tweeting!
- I have this great urge to purge (LOL). Probably the shame and anxiety about the BK.
So, what else folks? Do I continue this morning to wallow in shame or do I put on my big girl pants and get crap done today? I’m sure you know what I want to do. Let’s see if I fight against my norm and do it different.
Hi there. It’s been a while; I’m still here.
I think I have written many times about my toxic financial situation post diagnosis of Cowden Syndrome and Lhermitte-duclos Disease. For the sake of time, I’ll try to snapshot it here:
- I’m in debt over $20,000 on my credit cards as I have been forced to live on them, since I can no longer do what I once did for employment.
- I have kicked around this idea for months, the bankruptcy idea. I have prolonged it as long as I could because my ego and credit score. 🙂
- I also owe over $35,000 in student loans (you know, the whole career thing I had planned before having 2 brain surgeries, et al.)
I called one of my creditors this morning to find out about any hardship programs they offered. Currently, my monthly payment is $395. Guess what program I qualify for with them? A 5 year program with a monthly payment of $370.
Am I missing something here?
So, bankruptcy is next. I have an appointment the end of February to see an attorney to just get this done and over with. (NOTE: The filing fee for bankruptcy is $1875.)
So, if you happen to see or hear from me and I am riddled with anxiety, or so depressed I cannot get out of my bed, or I’m distant or just seem off – please know it’s because life is a lot right now. It is literally costing me money to live – and I am going deeper in the hole every moment of every day.
Pretty grim right now for me, tbh.
If you happen to see me on Twitter and see my posting about my GoFundMe or my Teespring store, would you do me a solid and share then for me please?
Thank you. Until next time.
I saw a Neurologist yesterday!
I won’t bore you with the details of why I stopped seeing one earlier, blah blah blah. Good news is I now have one.
I’m kind of processing everything still – all I have really ever wanted is for a Neuro to “have eyes on me” as my brain tumor (and brain surgeries) symptoms are progressing.
Granted, adding another doctor to my team may seem kind of odd, but this works. 🙂 I have said numerous times to numerous doctors that I don’t expect anything to change. I know there are no miracle drugs to help me manage life now and I sure as hell AM NOT having another brain surgery. Ever.
Until next time!